I bought the name in game pack and i keep on trying to find my name via the random thingy but i cant find my name in it i spent around 20 min trying to find my name. HELP
When did you buy it? The new ones only get added in with each major release.
Also, there's a LOT of name-in-game characters. And there's no way to make a specific one appear. One way to try looking is to start/load a game, turn on Dev mode (in the options menu) then use the dev tool Spawn Pawn -> Colonist. Then just go on a clicking spree all over the map. You'll generate all kinds of pawns very quickly, which makes it quicker to find your name-in-game pawn.
Also, who was your name in game character? Maybe someone has seem him/her and could upload a screenshot or save file for you.