Nice trolling there, but let's pretend you're actually serious for a moment.
Rimworld arguably still has its fair number of issues, but the one you mention is definitely not one of them. The developer has proven times and again that he is willing to listen to his community, taking the best (for the game), and leaving the rest to mods within a well-documented and robust open-ended engine. If you don't like something, mod it out or change it for what you think it should be. There are already plenty of mods to be found on the Steam Workshop or on these very forums that allow the "parametrization" that you describe.
Keep in mind that this game has features like cannibalism, organ harvesting, drug usage, teen soldiers and other nowhere near "politically correct" shenanigans. If you're already horrified by the thought that the "sexual life" or identity of virtual pixels moving on your computer screen in a years old video-game could not match your RL expectations, I'm afraid to tell you that this game is probably just not for you.
Now about the particular incident that you mention, keep searching on Reddit. AFAIK, Tynan replied to the accusations a long time ago. In any case, the argument was (and still is) preposterous. If anyone believes that a game developer has to embrace whatever appears in one of their games, like someone working on a first person shooter hiding a compulsive murderer in RL for example, then this someone really needs to have some of their priorities checked.
Finally, FWIW, I've witnessed Tynan donating and contributing to "social causes" more than you probably ever will in your lifetime. Just go bother another gaming community already.